Raising Emotionally Healthy Children

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By Fellow Mumbaite

The best part about raising emotionally healthy children is to have confident children who can make wise decisions as well as face challenges in life without fear. If children are not raised emotionally healthy, then there are great chances of raising children who have fear in their minds and are always scared to take up challenges. Such under-recognized children usually feel vulnerable to most of the situations they face and thus prefer staying back trying to avoid the critics and non-acceptance.

Thus raising emotionally healthy children should be a primary goal of each and every parent, if they wish to see their children climbing on each steps of their life confidently without any fear. For raising emotionally healthy children, one has to enjoy and interact with their children in emotionally healthy way, thus to imbibe the same in their children. So for parents who emotionally abandon their children this could act as a wake-up call. For parents who fail to satisfy the emotionally healthy needs of their children end up forcing them to failure. Though it won’t entirely be a blame for the parents, but they would be equally responsible for providing their kids with such poor base.

Is it upon parents to raise emotionally healthy children?

Yes it is completely upon parents to raise emotionally healthy children as children depend as well communicate more with parents in their growing years than anybody else. Above all children knowingly as well as unknowingly learn more about communication by the way we live, the way we deal with our life and by the way we speak and handle situation. Children receive direct message as well as indirect message from the adults that live around them.

How to raise emotionally healthy children

To raise emotionally healthy children parents need to encourage and contribute more towards raising positive as well as healthy attitude within children.

Provide your child with the freedom to express his feelings

When a child wishes to express his feelings in front of you, allow him to do so as his feelings as well as emotions too do count. Let your child feel free to express the way he feels things, the way he feels disappointments and the way he wishes to handle tense situations.

Allow the child the freedom to speak

Children are usually not allowed to finish their conversations by parents because they already decide that their children are wrong. Maybe yes! But what is in it to hear out your kid who wants you to know something. When a child is heard he feels included and cared. Allow the child to know that his view points and considerations are worth listening.

Show your child how much you appreciate his good behavior

Appreciate your child’s behavior. Few parents master the art of bombarding their children with the mistakes they do, but forget to appreciate good behavior, which is entirely wrong.

Make it clear what you expect from your child

Don’t keep changing rules every single day. Let the child know what you expect from him. It shouldn’t be as if one day you tell him you want things done this way and the next day you ask him to follow some other rules. Don’t confuse your child. Rather be specific and stick to the rules.

Discipline should be treated as an education

Discipline should not be treated as if you are taking away certain freedom from your child and creating anarchy. Instead parents should make children feel that by following discipline, children are just learning good habits. This way they tend to follow discipline more.

Enjoy some leisure time with children

“All work and no play make Jack a dull boy”. Don’t keep bombarding your child with rules and discipline all day long. It will be great if you spend some leisure time together, which can actually refresh your child’s mind. How about watching a movie together, going to a mall, having an ice-cream or just playing with them. Spend some quality time together with children everyday ensure emotional healthy atmosphere within the house, thus ensuring children too get raised emotionally healthy!

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MsDora profile image

MsDora Level 7 Commenter 7 months ago

Very good! Also consider that emotionally healthy parents is the best illustration for the children.

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thechronicler Level 1 Commenter 7 months ago

Awesome advice; emotionally unhealthy kids make for emotionally unhealthy adults, and this can make life hard in many ways. If I ever decide to have a kid, I will work very hard to raise him/her with these kinds of guidelines.

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andycool 7 months ago

Useful hub really... raising kids that are emotionally healthy and fit is not an easy task. Parents should take extra care in this respect. You provided some awesome advises in this article. Voted up and useful. Thanks for sharing! - Andy

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Hyphenbird Level 8 Commenter 7 months ago

You have some wonderful advice in here. So many people discipline out of anger and create chaos in the home. That alone can foster nervous and emotional issues in children.

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Eileen Goodall Level 4 Commenter 7 months ago

Voted up - a happy confident child is a happy confident adult producing happy confident children :)

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Fellow Mumbaite Hub Author 7 months ago

@MsDora emotionally healthy parents are a must for raising emotional healthy children. Thanks for the feedback!

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melissadalman 7 months ago

I was just hopping and found your hub. I'm a newly single mother of 2, and you have some great advice here. Thank you!

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Fellow Mumbaite Hub Author 7 months ago

@thechronicler....thanks for reading and believing in it..

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Fellow Mumbaite Hub Author 7 months ago

@andycool thanks for visiting. I believe that each and every parent should make it sure to raise children in healthy atmosphere to make them emotionally healthy. This is finally for children and their future!

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Fellow Mumbaite Hub Author 7 months ago

@Hyphenbird..thanks for reading my articles. Anger is not the right solution. No parents can resolve issues with anger and raise kids with such manner!

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Fellow Mumbaite Hub Author 7 months ago

@Eileen Goodall...Thanks for voting up and reading my article.

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Fellow Mumbaite Hub Author 7 months ago

@melissadalman..Thanks for visiting and finding the article useful!

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jenubouka Level 8 Commenter 7 months ago

I value great articles about parenting as this one. It encourages me as a mom to keep up the consistency and gives new insight how to always be a better parent. Thank you for the wonderful informative hub. Greatly appreciated.

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Fellow Mumbaite Hub Author 7 months ago

Thanks jenubouka for reading and liking the article. Yes it's very important for a parent to learn and understand what exactly parenting is all about, as its just not about raising but also about raising correctly.

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kaylarenaejohnson 7 months ago

Agree with your HUB 100% Parents do need to make sure that they are emotionally healthy as well.

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Fellow Mumbaite Hub Author 7 months ago

Thanks kaylarenaejohnson..for reading and believing in this hub. It particularly speaks about those parents who want their child to score well and reach the skies, thus trying to fight all that comes in way and tackle it. Sometimes while helping their children do so, they almost blame children for being coward and not being sporting enough! But in this quest they forget about how emotionally healthy they are about raising kids and how they need to learn more about right parenting!

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kerlynb Level 7 Commenter 7 months ago

"When a child wishes to express his feelings in front of you, allow him to do so as his feelings as well as emotions too do count." - Correct. Giving kids the freedom to express their thoughts would cultivate in them the values of confidence and respect. All useful tips you have here. Congratulations!

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Fellow Mumbaite Hub Author 7 months ago

Thanks kerlynb for liking and agreeing with the hub. These are just few issues which parents tend to neglect and then end up cursing children later when they fail. Its always good to learn from mistakes and try to cultivate what you use in the way your raise your children.

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Ruchira Level 8 Commenter 6 months ago

I hear ya Fellow Mumbaite!

Children are a reflection of their parents thus, what we inculcate in them is what we are.

In this age when children are way smarter than the parents thanks to the MEDIA and it's exposure that; parents gotta be pretty smart themselves. It is no easy task raising a kid anymore...phew!

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Fellow Mumbaite Hub Author 6 months ago

Yes Ruchira, you are right. Its not an easy job anymore raising kids. Parents need to be smarter just like their kids.

Thanks for visiting!

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andrebreynolds 6 months ago

Very good tips here. Thanks for sharing.

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Fellow Mumbaite Hub Author 6 months ago

Thanks for visiting andrebreynolds..

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tillsontitan Level 7 Commenter 5 months ago

As always, a good hub. Treat your children as you would want to be treated and you can't go wrong. Remember you are the parent and thought it is nice to be their friend you still have to make some tough decisions. I have been fortunate; I have four children who are grown now with families of their own. Each is a wonderful adult and they have wonderful children. I couldn't ask for more. Voted up.

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Fellow Mumbaite Hub Author 5 months ago

Wow congratulations for being parent for four..Its really great to know about such parents who can raise not just 1 or 2 but 4 emotionally healthy kids. Its a real tough job i must say. Yes you are right about parents being friendly with their children and yet need to take their call at times. Its difficult but not impossible at all. Thanks for visiting and reading my hub..

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kelleyward Level 7 Commenter 3 months ago

Great Hub! I really like the pictures. So cute! I think encouraging kids to talk is very important and to address different emotions. Kids are such a blessing!

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Fellow Mumbaite Hub Author 3 months ago

Thanks Kellyward..one of the child in that pic is my son (yellow t-shirt) and the other is my nephew.

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brandyBachmann 3 months ago

Very nice article to share...good job!

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Fellow Mumbaite Hub Author 3 months ago

Thanks brandyBachman...for visiting and liking my hub:)

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